2 Mar 2015
This year I have been focusing on the word “commitment.” Last month I committed to sharing my feelings with my husband. I have a tendency to bottle things up when I’m feeling sad or angry and not expressing what is bothering me. In February, I tried to change that, and I did. However, I learned that there is a right way and a wrong way to communicate those feelings. For March, I will be focusing on not just sharing my feelings, but learning how to communicate them better.
Being one that struggles with conflict and admitting when I’m upset, I figured that texting or emailing my concerns would be easier for me. I was quite wrong. After sending my husband an email addressing something I was having an issue with, we both ended up misunderstanding each other’s feelings and being upset because we weren’t communicate effectively. I learn the hard way that while I think I write better than I speak, it’s hard to interpret tone in an email.
This month I want to continue the work I’ve been doing to share my feelings. But I want to do so in a way that is healthier than sending emails or texts. I want to have enough confidence to share those feelings in person and not get overly upset when we are having a conversation.
What are your relationship goals this month?