30 Jan 2015
I recently saw this quote on the blog Radiant Organizing that got me thinking:
What words do I usually put after the words “I am?”
If I’m being honest and I think about what I say to myself, I use words like, “fat, lazy, boring, and unsuccessful.” I tell myself I am, “not the person I thought I would be by now.” I say I am, “not as good as everyone else.”
And it’s true that it’s shaped my reality. The more I tell myself that I’m fat…well…then to me, I am. If I believe I’m not as good as everyone else at one thing or another, then that’s what I experience. I live in a word where I’m not as pretty, not as successful, not as worthy.
What if I put other words after “I am?” What if I made a list of the things I would tell myself if I were my friend and not my enemy? What then? Would they become my reality?
I’d said to myself, “you are brave, passionate, loving, creative, funny and talented.” Just writing out the list makes me feel conceited. But what if instead, I just felt…confident? I felt proud of the person that I am and the strengths that I possess.
Maybe then, I would finally be the person I thought I would be by now. Someone that loves herself for the gifts she has been given instead of beating herself up for the flaws that she perceives.