An Unforgivable Betrayal

 

An Unforgivable Betrayal

As a wife, I have learned that forgiving quickly is one of the keys to having a happy and healthy relationship.  Most of the time I can get over my hurt to forgive and move on.  But in this one instance, this is an unforgivable betrayal I just can’t get over.

My husband watched episodes of our favorite show without me!

Have you ever had this happen?!  You and your significant other or you and your best friend have been binge-watching a show from the beginning on Netflix.  You started the first episode together and you’re going to spend weeks watching it until the end.  One night you happen to have plans that cut into your Friends episode time, and when you come home, your significant other or friend has watched SEVERAL EPISODES WITHOUT YOU.

They don’t even try to pretend they haven’t seen the episodes and re-watch them with you.  No…they just start the show from where they let off.  SEVERAL EPISODES AHEAD.  And it’s not like you haven’t seen every episode of Friends, but it’s the one cardinal rule of binge watching with another person.  You don’t watch episodes without them!!  We have a million options with Hulu and Neflix, but for some reason our show was the only option.  Unforgivable I say.  Unforgivable.

Has this ever happened to you?

 

A Velociraptor Proof Room

A Velociraptor Proof Room

I was three when the original Jurassic Park movie came out.  I was probably too young to see the movie but I was also obsessed with Abraham Lincoln at the time (yes, I was a very strange child) so my mom thought I was mature enough to handle it.  And I proved her right by exclaiming that all the dinosaurs weren’t scary because they were “am-mamatronic.”  I told you I was odd.

The movie became my favorite movie at the time and for the most part it didn’t scare me.  I desperately wanted to visit a theme park that had dinosaurs.  But one irrational fear lingered from being a three-year old who loved an adult movie.  To this day I enter a room and one of my first thoughts is, “is this room velociraptor proof?!”

Do you remember the scene in the movie where the two kids are hiding in the kitchen and the raptors come in? This is the scene I think of when I’m sitting in a room alone.  “If a velociraptor came in the is room would I have places to hide? Would their be some place to lock them up?” Clearly some part of my inner three-year old has stuck around.

I read the original book for the first time in preparation for the new movie and let me tell you, it’s a good thing my mom didn’t read it to me as a bedtime story.  It was terrifying!  I found myself hearing bird noises outside while I was reading in my bedroom and thinking, “those birds are definitely part dinosaur and will try to bust through these windows to peck my eyes out.”  I told you my fears weren’t exactly rational.

I guess it goes without saying that I LOVED the new movie.  I texted one of my girlfriends after to tell her that it was the hottest movie I’ve ever seen.  Apparently I have a serious thing for Dinosaur Trainers.  When I told my husband Chris Pratt reminded me of him the whole movie he said, “You know I’m not Chris Pratt right?”  Oh…yes…I know that.  But do you know if this room is velociraptor proof?

Have you seen Jurassic World?  What did you think?

 

When Dogs Get Mail

When Dogs Get Mail

I get a lot of packages in the mail.  Between jewelry deliveries, Amazon purchases, items to review for the blog, and care packages from my parents in California, there are boxes delivered to our apartment several times a week.  With all of those deliveries, how is it possible that my dogs know when the mail is for them?!?

Thanks to Chewy, my dogs usually get a fun surprise once a month or so.  And boy when those dogs get mail do they get excited.  I’m pretty positive they can’t read so they can’t see where the box has come from, but they always know.  The minute the box is brought in the door, their little ears perk right up!

When Dogs Get Mail

Bella proceeds to make sniffing and grunting noises and Penguin gets a big grin on his face and starts running around in circles.  He’s incapable of being excited about something without making himself dizzy.  When he does this I imagine myself going out to the mailbox to wait for the mail to be delivered.  It just wouldn’t look right if I spun around whenever I was excited for a delivery. (Note to self to try this as a social experiment.)

When Dogs Get Mail

Once the box is open, all bets are off.  There is pure chaos as the dogs try to get me to give them whatever is inside.  They don’t even know what it is yet.  This past month the surprise box came with Icelandic Haddock biscuits (someone please tell me I’m not the only one who had no idea what a Haddock was) and as I busted them open to give Bella and Penguin a taste, I was overwhelmed by the worst smell imaginable.  Which is saying a lot because Penguin’s breath could kill dragons.

But hey, the dogs loved them because apparently they love to eat things that smell terrible to humans, (cat poop, trash, etc.) so I was happy, and once I aired out the apartment and washed my hands six or seven times, things calmed down to normal.  Well as normal as it ever is in an apartment with a 100-lb Lab, a Pomeranian that thinks he’s a cat, and a cat that may or may not be the devil.

Do your dogs know when the mail is for them?

Getting Uncomfortable – Marriage And Relationship Goals

Getting Uncomfortable

I am terrible at confrontation.  I would rather go to the dentist and get a root canal than tell someone when they have upset me.  And when it comes to a healthy marriage, that kind of avoidance just does not work.  Sometimes it’s all about getting uncomfortable and approaching something with your spouse so that little issues don’t turn in to big issues.

I remember when my husband and I first moved in together.  He had so many specific way he liked things from how to fold the chip bag when you put it in the cabinets to the way that dishes should be stacked in the dish strainer.  I failed to see that he was just used to his apartment a certain way and instead felt like he thought I was useless and did everything wrong.  I didn’t say he hurt my feelings when he told me he wanted something done differently and I took a lot of things personally that I probably didn’t need to.

Two years in to marriage and I haven’t gotten much better in the department of sharing my feelings.  And it’s not just with him.  I struggle with telling friends and family members my feelings as well.  And usually it’s not about anything important.  It’s a small sentence that makes me upset that I refuse to acknowledge.  I carry my anger alone and usually the other person never knows.  Or if they are intuitive like my husband they end up asking me ten times what’s wrong before I say.

This month I’m committing to work on my issue with talking to people about my feelings.  I’m not allowing myself to avoid confrontation.  I’m letting myself get uncomfortable so that I can have a healthy marriage (and relationships in general)

What’s your relationship goal for this month?


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Currently – Volume 11

Currently - Volume 11I’m back! I took most of June off from blogging to come back refreshed and rejuvenated.  I missed you all and I’m so glad to be back in the swing of things.

I’m linking up with In Residence and Gold & Bloom today for Currently – Volume 11 to tell you what I’ve been up to for the past month.

Craving  – Lattes.  What’s new though?

Grilling – not much of anything.  We have grills in the courtyard at our apartment complex but it’s been raining a lot this week.  Hopefully we can try the grill soon.

Listening – to Apple Music.  I signed up for the 3-month free trial to see what it what I thought of Apple’s new service.  So far I think the app is fun, but that’s about as far as I’ve gotten.  Have you signed up to try it?

Planning  – to enjoy the rest of my week off.  My husband and I are having a stay-cation this entire week and it has been so wonderful to be able to spend all day with him.

Decorating – our spare bedroom.  My husband let me turn the room in to an office for my blogging and jewelry boutique and I’m planning on spending part of my week off making it even more organized.

What are you doing currently?