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Marriage And Relationship Goals: Exciting Times

Marriage And Relationship Goals: Exciting Times
 

If all goes as planned, my husband and I will be homeowners in 10 days.  It’s been overwhelming, stressful, and emotional.  But as Zack likes to say, “These are exciting time.”

As a child of divorced parents, a house has symbolized to me something to eventually be fought of over.  It was the one last tie holding the end of a relationship together.  From the first time we talked about buying a house way back when we were engaged, it terrified me.  More than marriage itself, because that was all I knew.  A house was something that two people ended up having to split.

But Zack keeps reminding me, we are not our parents, and our relationship is not theirs.  And I know that.  I’m trying to keep myself from being hesitant and allow myself just to enjoy this time.  Yesterday I started browsing Pinterest to decide on what paint colors would be nice for our living room and bedroom.  It was the first time I had imagined us really living there.

And it is exciting.  It’s the next step in our life together.  I would hate to miss all the excitement because I’m too busy dwelling on the past and worrying about the future. So my goal this month is to enjoy the process of buying our home, moving in, and making it our own.  I will not spend that time in fear.

What’s your relationship goal this month?
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Quality Time – Marriage And Relationship Goals

Quality Time

August was a month full of quality time with my family.  My mom came to stay with us for almost a week, and then we headed to Jamaica for a vacation with my dad and his girlfriend.  There was very little television or phone use, just relaxation by the beach, good food, and good conversation.

It got me thinking how rarely that happens when we are home.  Too often we are distracted by the television, our computers, or the latest book we are reading (ok that last part only happens to me) and we don’t spend a whole lot of time just being together without other distractions.

Zack is really good about turning off the tv at a certain time and spending a few moments just to catch up together.  But this month, I really want to dedicate to finding those moments everywhere.  I want to eat dinner at our dinning table and have a conversation.  I want to spend some time being with one another without feeling like we also have to be doing something else.

Our 2nd anniversary is at the end of this month, so I think that makes September perfect for some extra quality time together.


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New to the Marriage & Relationship Goals Link-up? Goals help our relationships grow stronger and get better with time as well as help us to continue moving forward and avoid the “ruts” of life. This link-up was created in hopes of inspiring your relationship with your significant other no matter your chapter in life and love. We would love for you to join us in making the things we do in our relationships intentional. If you would like more information, click here.
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I Can’t Handle All The Celebrity Divorces

I Can't Handle All The Celebrity Divorces

It’s been 10 years since Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston got divorced and I still haven’t gotten over it.  I’m under no impression that celebrity marriages usually last longer than the latest boy band craze, but there are just some relationships you think can beat the odds.  Some Hollywood couples seem like their marriages are just like yours or your next-door neighbors and it’s so sad to see when they end.

This summer has been rough for celebrity divorces.  Most of them I didn’t see coming, and I’ve having trouble coping.  I’m taking the Miranda Lamber and Blake Shelton divorce harder than when my parents split.  The only logical reason I will accept for their end is that Blake is in love with Adam Levine.  Because that, is totally understandable.

But Ben Afflec and Jennifer Garner? Reba and Narvel? Gwen Stefani and Mr. Gwen Stefani? (seriously I can’t even remember his name.) It’s become more than I can handle.  I saw a rumor that Will Smith and Jada were getting divorced and I thought, “IS THERE NO TRUE LOVE?!?”  The next thing you’re going to tell me is that the people that go on the Bachelor aren’t looking for an honest and real relationship!  Or that WWE is all acting!  I kid, I kid.  Seriously, this summer has been hard.  I just keep thinking that Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson better be hanging in there because I don’t think I could make it if they got divorced. But Adam Levine and his wife, now that’s a split I’ll support.  #BlakeAndAdamForeva

Which celebrity divorce has been the toughest on you?

Enjoying The Moment – Marriage And Relationship Goals

Enjoying The Moment - Marriage And Relationship Goals

The summer has gone by ridiculously fast.  I had made a list of all the fun things that I wanted Zack and I to do together, and I feel like we’ve been so busy that we’ve hardly gotten to any of them.  Or we have been rushing from one thing to the next so quickly, that I’m not always enjoying the moment.

This month we have a lot of fun things going on.  My mom is coming to visit us for a few days and then we are heading to Jamaica for a trip with my dad and his girlfriend.  With so much planned, I’m worried the month is going to slip away from us before we have a chance to pause and really enjoy it.

So much of life seems that way.  Summer comes and you can’t wait for fall when the weather cools down.  You meet someone, fall in love, and you can’t wait to get married.  Once you’re married you want a house or a baby, and suddenly you’re looking forward to the next adventure so much that you’re not really savoring the present one.  There’s always something to look forward to.  There’s always the next goal, the next event, the next exciting opportunity.  But right here right now is pretty great too, and I don’t want to miss it.


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Getting Uncomfortable – Marriage And Relationship Goals

Getting Uncomfortable

I am terrible at confrontation.  I would rather go to the dentist and get a root canal than tell someone when they have upset me.  And when it comes to a healthy marriage, that kind of avoidance just does not work.  Sometimes it’s all about getting uncomfortable and approaching something with your spouse so that little issues don’t turn in to big issues.

I remember when my husband and I first moved in together.  He had so many specific way he liked things from how to fold the chip bag when you put it in the cabinets to the way that dishes should be stacked in the dish strainer.  I failed to see that he was just used to his apartment a certain way and instead felt like he thought I was useless and did everything wrong.  I didn’t say he hurt my feelings when he told me he wanted something done differently and I took a lot of things personally that I probably didn’t need to.

Two years in to marriage and I haven’t gotten much better in the department of sharing my feelings.  And it’s not just with him.  I struggle with telling friends and family members my feelings as well.  And usually it’s not about anything important.  It’s a small sentence that makes me upset that I refuse to acknowledge.  I carry my anger alone and usually the other person never knows.  Or if they are intuitive like my husband they end up asking me ten times what’s wrong before I say.

This month I’m committing to work on my issue with talking to people about my feelings.  I’m not allowing myself to avoid confrontation.  I’m letting myself get uncomfortable so that I can have a healthy marriage (and relationships in general)

What’s your relationship goal for this month?


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New to the Marriage & Relationship Goals Link-up? Goals help our relationships grow stronger and get better with time as well as help us to continue moving forward and avoid the “ruts” of life. This link-up was created in hopes of inspiring your relationship with your significant other no matter your chapter in life and love. We would love for you to join us in making the things we do in our relationships intentional. If you would like more information, click here.

 
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